I am 24 years old from Canada. Ever since I was 13, I thought something was wrong with my labia – my inner lips stick out from the outer ones. I saw other girls changing in the locker rooms at school and most of them had pretty lips that were tucked in. My first sexual experience at 17 was very stressful because I was sure the guy would notice that there was something wrong with me and not go through with it. He didn’t mention anything and we did the deed, but I still felt very uncomfortable and I kept thinking that he must be grossed out by the size of my lips. With the help of the internet, I now know that women come in all shapes and sizes, but I still can’t help but feel grossed out when I see my vagina in the mirror.
Your lips are normal and beautiful. It’s great that you have come to realise that there are so many different variations of women’s bits – all of them normal. Hopefully you will soon become even more comfortable in your beautiful skin. You are most welcome to e-mail me if you would like to chat further